Are you a Parent or are you their BEST Friend?

July 17, 2019

Parent Friendhip

Can we be both to our children?

There are so many people who believe so!

As a parent, you should be your child’s friend; but, can you be their “BEST” friend?  Should you be?

At the very heart of this question is the quote mentioned above- and in my opinion to raise your children well you cannot be their BEST FRIEND.  You can be close friends.  To be a good kid entails us, as parents, TO BE PARENTS.  How can we correct our child if we are their best friend?  How can we teach, encourage, feed, advice, “tell”, scold or do so many other things which, as a parent, you can do but as a best friend you cannot or may not be able to?

Practically speaking, even between friends it’s difficult (though not impossible), to correct your best friend– however, as a parent you don’t have that worry.

However, if you are your child’s best friend & vice-versa, won’t you spoil them to maintain that friendship level?  Would you be able to say something they are not prepared to hear?  Won’t you ‘let things ride’, which actually should have been corrected?

Can you actually raise your child to be a good kid yet maintain a “best friend” relationship?

I personally think NOT! … what are your views?

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‘Keep Up with the Joneses’!

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July 12, 2019

We are an inquisitive nation and by extension an inquisitive people 😊!

Politically, we just cannot stop poking our [long] noses into others’ affairs … and more than that, commenting on the same.  We are ‘holier than thou’!

Locally, we must be part of the crowd – we just cannot mind our own business.

Socially, not only must we ‘keep up with the Joneses’ but we must comment on “them”, their life, clothes, dogs, cats and anything else we are inquisitive enough to bitch about.

We’ll stop to see an accident; we’ll mill around the affected; we’ll give our comments on who was right or wrong without even knowing anything about the incident; we’ll even pronounce judgement – all along with no relationship to affected parties concerned.  All because our voice must be heard above the din of another 50 onlookers with exactly the same purpose in mind 😊!

Oi people!!! … Get a life!  There’s more to life than inquiring into our neighbors’ comings and goings; the food they eat; their lifestyle; or who they meet.

We should get our own house in order … after all, there’s another countless tongues wagging at [against] us!

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BIG BROTHER IS WATCHING … YOU 👊🏻

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June 17, 2019

In a recent set of Tweets (https://twitter.com/aamirkazi60/status/1139408694653800448), our GM Aamir Kazi, @aamirkazi60, raises some very interesting & pertinent questions on the use of Social Media by employees of companies (for brevity I am only reproducing an extract of some of the questions he poses) –

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In a recent row of […] the question is- does any organization has the right to spy on any employee’s private life?

  • Check on our thinking?
  • Do their employees represent organisations on their social media? What should be the criteria or standard operating procedure while on job?
  • Does any organisation has any contract letter saying “your social media accounts & personal emails will be checked for foul language and inappropriate content and if found guilty, disciplinary action will be taken against you”- you may lose your job?

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My layman’s [non-legal] perspective on this is as follows-

  • Employers cannot spy on anyone (let’s leave that to our governments 😇)!
  • Saying that, nothing stops an employer having a clear policy BARRING anyone from using social media, the web and emails for personal use during office hours, unless that’s part of their job responsibility – and appropriate, legal action against the employee if found guilty. Why should an employee use paid, company-time for their personal jolly, regardless of using their own devices or company devices?
  • Equally, no employee represents an organization on social media, unless specifically authorized to do so…and this is where the viewer of the posts may not know whether it is an official post or not.
  • If we have to check on employees’ thinking, I think there are official psychometric tests which are normal and can be administered to employees, as long as these are fair and across the entire department or company- without singling out any one employee.

Employees have a responsibility towards their organizations too to ensure their social media actions don’t inadvertently reflect back on their company.

The starting course of action – which I believe to be morally & legally correct – would be for companies to technologically restrict social media & web access on company-provided devices.

How do your companies handle these phenomena?

What is a fair & reasonable policy for companies to tackle this media  channel in a growing technology world?

(p.s.- By the way, Aamir’s tweets were personal in nature 😉😏)

 

The Sins of Social Media!

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May 22, 2019

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The most hyped concept since the last decade – and growing ever stronger – has got some amazing advantages and strengths-

  • It’s brought old friends, & “flames”, together!
  • It acts as a mass “alerts” & warnings medium.
  • Sharing of experiences, travels, musings, ideas and what-not!
  • It’s characteristic of being such a positive influencer on one’s actions and thoughts!
  • …and so many other advantages each of us have individually experienced.

However, we have witnessed it’s negative side too ☹ –

  • Creating a negative influence and perception- and thereafter a mass “conversation” where none should have even existed.
  • The times when people have falsely posted a [perceived] negative experience about one of our hotels- when that’s not been the factual case.
  • The power of sharing a negative post without giving a chance to the party to first explain themselves.
  • How a post goes viral with, and by, people who have no knowledge of the events or experiences mentioned.
  • Once posted, the damage is done – to try to extricate yourself from that or explain your side of the story is too late. The damage done to the affected party can be very severe, cruel and unnecessary.
  • The problem is that the influencer sets the negative tone and content without giving the party a chance to explain their side of the story.

I believe the modus operandi is very simple-

  1. Never post negative on social media about another party (see qualification below);
  2. I have taken up my problems directly with the other party – and even if they can’t solve the problem, their explanation is enough to clear the air.
  3. On a one-to-one basis, first give the other party a chance to explain their point of view, any compulsions or limitations and, even, solutions. Why take it on social media without first communicating with the party causing grief?
  4. Lastly, if – and only if – your experience with the party is still so bad, would you even consider going onto social media.