We Are Who We Are Because Of Our Forefathers (FINALE)

Nov 12, 2020

(So, the final part of my grandfather’s history and advice on life- I’ve amalgamated last two parts together)

REPLY ADDRESS BY MR. DINSHAW B AVARI ON THE OCCASION TO COMMEMORATE HIS 85th BIRTHDAY on NOV 5, 1987-

I am now 85 years old. Since twenty years, I have delivered my three hotels and my other businesses to my son, Byram, to run for our family for the last 20 years but he brings the Report to me very day about it their progress. What I and my family have learnt with the Hilton Hotel incident/case is that Never Ride a Horse Who’s Reins you Do Not Control. So my friends, my advise to you is that Never give your business away to somebody else to run for who’s losses you will be responsible.

Also remember, whatever happens in this world, happens for the Best, because it is God’s Wish that it happened that way; but Man makes his own Destiny and it is up to you to change your life and to make it or break it, so don’t blame others as you are solely responsible for what you want to become.

((late) Dinshaw Avari at the opening of Avari Towers- April 1985)

My life’s Philosophy has been always to give a helping hand.

Listen to everybody because even the beggar has something to say from which you can benefit if you keep an open mind. So keep your mind alert and assimilate fresh ideas thrown to you.

To all my old friends I strongly recommend that you make your Will without fail. For Parsi Wills, no probate is necessary. Whatever jewelry and other items you have you must specify what goes to who so that there is no misunderstanding or fights later on among your loved ones. For each jewelry piece, you must write the description in Gujrati or English and specify in your Will who this would go to.

((late) Khorshed Avari at grandchildren’s Navjote ceremony- 1977)

Don’t demand respect- command respect; reflects the life I have lived.  This comes from not letting my past dictate who I am, rather letting it become a part of who I will become.

My last advise to you is that you must always pray to God without fail. Remember what Tennyson said: “More things are wrought by prayers than this world dreams of”. The real secret of my success in life has been my sincere selfless prayers to God.

(Goshpi Avari receiving Pride of Performance Award in 2011 from Governor Sindh for winning Asian Games Gold Medal for Pakistan in sailing in 1982)

At this function I can only say that my success has also been because of my kind wife, Khorshed, who stood by me through thick and thin and together we grew from humble beginnings to this happy stage today. If it were not for her, I do not think I would have been able to achieve the same extent of success. I must say that my son, Byram, and his family are looking after me very well and we do not have a father-and-son relationship but have the relationship of two good friends.

(Byram D. Avari with Blondie, Barney & Buddy)

I must thank all of you once again for having come to wish me for my 85th Birthday and for all the years of affection, friendship and love shown to me and my family and all I can wish you with the sincerity of a man 85 years old is that May God Bless You, may He, in his Infinite Kindness, look after all of you and your families and may you have health, prosperity, happiness because HAPPINESS IS UNTO HIM WHO GIVES HAPPINESS TO OTHERS.

CONCLUDED

(Byram & Goshpi Avari – at the Karachi Yacht Club)

End note-

So, friends, it’s only because of our forefathers’ hard work, sweat, determination, vision, perseverance that “we are who we are” today.  Sole credit goes to my grandparents (Khorshed & Dinshaw) and my parents (Goshpi & Byram) for what we are today … Thank You!

(previous (10th) post- https://dinshawavari.com/2020/10/15/we-are-who-we-are-because-of-our-forefathers-10/)

(Byram & Goshpi Avari with Gold Medals at Beach Luxury Hotel- 1982)

We Are Who We Are Because Of Our Forefathers- 10

October 15, 2020

(10 of 12)

REPLY ADDRESS BY MR. DINSHAW B AVARI ON THE OCCASION TO COMMEMORATE HIS 85th BIRTHDAY on NOV 5, 1987-

My instructions which are today even being repeatedly conveyed by my son Byram to all our Executives and our Organisation, are that sometimes you may be short of money, so call the persons and explain to them about this and even pay interest on the delay but never deduct a bill wrongly by even One Rupee and if a supplier has made a mistake in his calculations, then correct it and pay the sum but do not pay One Rupee even less as you will have to pay a thousand times more because remember ‘KHODAI KI LATHI NU AWAJ NATHI’.

In life, you must do Charity but Charity always begins at home and you must never give up your money which is yours by right nor should you try to take undue advantage of claiming monies which are not yours.

In my life, I have found that being practical has made me successful. Adjust to the times and do not fight the situation.

At one time in the Hotel, we found that in the Washing department, we were suffering losses through theft of Silverware. My Managers told me to put on Chowkidars and Security Guards. Instead I increased the salaries of the staff by Rs. 25/- per person. In the 1950’s this was a lot of money. The Chowkidars were not needed, the thefts stopped and the staff were happy. This was yet another example of being practical.

I learnt long ago to be humble.   My first example was when I was the top insurance agent in Sun Life Insurance, I became proud that nobody could do my job and submitted my resignation to Sir Phiroz Sethna (thinking I am irreplaceable). He immediately accepted and I   learnt my lesson. I eventually withdrew my resignation but this example of humility I have learnt & subsequently practiced and I have taught my son and my grand children.

(Jamshed Nusserwanjee Mehta- Photo credit- https://colnect.com/en/stamps/stamp/480344-Birth_Centenary_1986_of_Jamshed_Nusserwanjee_Mehta-Pakistan)

I followed the noble examples of great Parsis of Karachi like Late Mr. Jamshed Mehta, Khan Bahadur Ardeshir Mama, Sir Cowasjee Katrak, Edulji Dinshaw and family and more particularly my friends Hoshang, Minoo and Dinshaw Dinshaw, Mr. Shapurji Supariwala, Mr Minoo Spencer, Mr Jehangir Punthaky and Mr Cyrus Minwalla, who were the pioneers of the Parsi Community.”

(Jehangir Kothari- Photo credit: https://images.app.goo.gl/jRv5usBQdJzvRD8W9)

(to be cont)

(previous (9th) post- https://dinshawavari.com/2020/09/16/we-are-who-we-are-because-of-our-forefathers-9/)

(Khan Bahadur Ardeshir Mama- Photo credit- https://images.app.goo.gl/wWNCd7sTQp1kffMW6)