We Are Who We Are Because Of Our Forefathers (FINALE)

Nov 12, 2020

(So, the final part of my grandfather’s history and advice on life- I’ve amalgamated last two parts together)

REPLY ADDRESS BY MR. DINSHAW B AVARI ON THE OCCASION TO COMMEMORATE HIS 85th BIRTHDAY on NOV 5, 1987-

I am now 85 years old. Since twenty years, I have delivered my three hotels and my other businesses to my son, Byram, to run for our family for the last 20 years but he brings the Report to me very day about it their progress. What I and my family have learnt with the Hilton Hotel incident/case is that Never Ride a Horse Who’s Reins you Do Not Control. So my friends, my advise to you is that Never give your business away to somebody else to run for who’s losses you will be responsible.

Also remember, whatever happens in this world, happens for the Best, because it is God’s Wish that it happened that way; but Man makes his own Destiny and it is up to you to change your life and to make it or break it, so don’t blame others as you are solely responsible for what you want to become.

((late) Dinshaw Avari at the opening of Avari Towers- April 1985)

My life’s Philosophy has been always to give a helping hand.

Listen to everybody because even the beggar has something to say from which you can benefit if you keep an open mind. So keep your mind alert and assimilate fresh ideas thrown to you.

To all my old friends I strongly recommend that you make your Will without fail. For Parsi Wills, no probate is necessary. Whatever jewelry and other items you have you must specify what goes to who so that there is no misunderstanding or fights later on among your loved ones. For each jewelry piece, you must write the description in Gujrati or English and specify in your Will who this would go to.

((late) Khorshed Avari at grandchildren’s Navjote ceremony- 1977)

Don’t demand respect- command respect; reflects the life I have lived.  This comes from not letting my past dictate who I am, rather letting it become a part of who I will become.

My last advise to you is that you must always pray to God without fail. Remember what Tennyson said: “More things are wrought by prayers than this world dreams of”. The real secret of my success in life has been my sincere selfless prayers to God.

(Goshpi Avari receiving Pride of Performance Award in 2011 from Governor Sindh for winning Asian Games Gold Medal for Pakistan in sailing in 1982)

At this function I can only say that my success has also been because of my kind wife, Khorshed, who stood by me through thick and thin and together we grew from humble beginnings to this happy stage today. If it were not for her, I do not think I would have been able to achieve the same extent of success. I must say that my son, Byram, and his family are looking after me very well and we do not have a father-and-son relationship but have the relationship of two good friends.

(Byram D. Avari with Blondie, Barney & Buddy)

I must thank all of you once again for having come to wish me for my 85th Birthday and for all the years of affection, friendship and love shown to me and my family and all I can wish you with the sincerity of a man 85 years old is that May God Bless You, may He, in his Infinite Kindness, look after all of you and your families and may you have health, prosperity, happiness because HAPPINESS IS UNTO HIM WHO GIVES HAPPINESS TO OTHERS.

CONCLUDED

(Byram & Goshpi Avari – at the Karachi Yacht Club)

End note-

So, friends, it’s only because of our forefathers’ hard work, sweat, determination, vision, perseverance that “we are who we are” today.  Sole credit goes to my grandparents (Khorshed & Dinshaw) and my parents (Goshpi & Byram) for what we are today … Thank You!

(previous (10th) post- https://dinshawavari.com/2020/10/15/we-are-who-we-are-because-of-our-forefathers-10/)

(Byram & Goshpi Avari with Gold Medals at Beach Luxury Hotel- 1982)

We Are Who We Are Because Of Our Forefathers- 9

Sept 16, 2020

(9 of 12)

REPLY ADDRESS BY MR. DINSHAW B AVARI ON THE OCCASION TO COMMEMORATE HIS 85th BIRTHDAY on NOV 5, 1987-

God has been kind to me.

I made money from Beach Luxury Hotel and eventually bought a Hotel in Lahore (Nedous Hotel) on Public auction which I converted from Nedous Hotel to Park Luxury – and I was about to convert it to build the Lahore Hilton.

(Model of Nedous Hotel – presented to my grandfather by his staff – in our office)

By this time, my son Byram & I had discussed whether we were content in running the Beach Luxury or wanted to grow (and naturally we chose the latter).  

This then propelled me to say that success does not come without pains or losses… 

The Beach Luxury in the 50s and early 60s (when we spoke), made its money through cash sales which were not recorded because of the high taxation- and actually became our capital.  We agreed that firstly we have to bring all our businesses on the books because without a strong balance sheet we would not be able to leverage our business.  This meant having to pay taxes and have less disposable cash. 

(Beach Luxury in the 1960s
Picture credit- unknown photographer, with thanks)

The second decision we made with this move was to get professionals to join our Company so as to make it grow.  This business dilemma proved a success and is part of the learning discipline we instilled in my grandchildren.

However, the Lahore Hotel got requisitioned (once again for our family )because I had been asked to give a portion of the Hotel, free of charge, to an high official, which I had refused because I believe somebody can  have a free meal or take a pencil from me, but when I have to give away something which is earned with the sweat and hardships of my brow, then I will fight to the end.

Friends, let me tell you life is very difficult.  I have never cheated anybody and God has rewarded me for this.  I have worked hard and honestly with integrity and have never forgotten Ahura Mazda for all his blessings.

I persevered and got the Lahore Plot de-requisitioned and built the Lahore Hilton.

This is to explain to you that persistence and honesty of thought and purpose will always succeed.”

(to be cont)

(previous (8th) post- https://dinshawavari.com/2020/08/18/we-are-who-we-are-because-of-our-forefathers-8/)