April 2, 2020
Life is all about experiences and based on those experiences, over time, your outlook towards life and the world forms & changes.
Likewise, I too have become more philosophical, definitely more religious and have come to sincerely believe in (& follow) a saying we learnt from my father–
“Whatever happens, happens for the best;
Whatever happens, happens the way God wants it to
because that’s the best way”
So when my sailing friends, Bill & Kate Gover invited me to cruise with them on ‘SY SENETO’ around the world (https://billkatesail.wordpress.com/), I jumped at this opportunity for their Pacific leg. About four weeks – a leisurely cruise – interspersed with squalls (and calm) – but nothing grueling like it would have been in a Clipper or Fastnet race.
My wife Dinaz did – and my family would’ve – supported this 100%, as they have my other whims and fancies. Then I remembered my mother-in-law lives with us since 2017, when she had her stroke; and while Dinaz primarily takes care of her, I too help out where I can- especially moral & physical support to Dinaz. So, it really wouldn’t be right or fair for me to go gallivanting the oceans while my wife solely supported her mom. Hence my deep regrets to Bill & Kate.
No one knew COVID-19 would hit the WORLD just four months into their ‘adventure of a lifetime’! Had I gone on the sail, not only would I probably have been stuck in some port; there would have been no flights back; I wouldn’t be with my family; and they and I would be worried for each other while the Coronavirus engulfed the Country (just as Bill & Kate must be currently for their family and vice-versa as they sail the Pacific).
So here’s the punch- while regretting the voyage was the right thing to do, in hindsight I now believe I was never meant to go as it never had been on the cards for me … “whatever happens, happens for the best”!
Likewise, the pandemic we are facing now is happening for a reason and if mankind can just learn and evolve from this experience, we will be the better from it.