July 23, 2019
This Instagram post from @house.of.leaders got me thinking…
There is a growing disparity I see in our daily lives between the those of us who “have” and the rest of our society. There is a gulf which grows as the years progress.
Information technology, medical technology, smart phones, mortality rates and so much more are, without doubt, getting better – yet I believe the standards of life, in general, are getting worse for the vast majority of the world! As I type this on my laptop in the comfort of my chilled room, @house.of.leaders’ quote glares at me in my face, as I realize 70% of the rest of our Country is withering away in the heat, families trying to get their children a minimal education, so that they can at least read & write, let alone own or use a laptop.
We have a roof over our heads; we wear clean clothes and shoes; have access to daily food, electricity, water, education, transport, medicines, justice … all of which we take for granted. I just have to look out of our car’s window daily to actually see what the rest of our society CANNOT take for granted!
We all have our problems- whether health, mental, physical, work, family. We shouldn’t complain when things don’t always work out for us; because the majority of the world’s population don’t even get a choice of how they can live … they just do!
(Ending Note- coincidentally, a complimentary Tweet by @sudheenkulkarni identifies this deficiency of “compassion” – had both our countries’ governments practiced compassion, I think 50% of these social problems would not exist!)
July 17, 2019
Can we be both to our children?
There are so many people who believe so!
As a parent, you should be your child’s friend; but, can you be their “BEST” friend? Should you be?
At the very heart of this question is the quote mentioned above- and in my opinion to raise your children well you cannot be their BEST FRIEND. You can be close friends. To be a good kid entails us, as parents, TO BE PARENTS. How can we correct our child if we are their best friend? How can we teach, encourage, feed, advice, “tell”, scold or do so many other things which, as a parent, you can do but as a best friend you cannot or may not be able to?
Practically speaking, even between friends it’s difficult (though not impossible), to correct your best friend– however, as a parent you don’t have that worry.
However, if you are your child’s best friend & vice-versa, won’t you spoil them to maintain that friendship level? Would you be able to say something they are not prepared to hear? Won’t you ‘let things ride’, which actually should have been corrected?
Can you actually raise your child to be a good kid yet maintain a “best friend” relationship?
I personally think NOT! … what are your views?
July 12, 2019
We are an inquisitive nation and by extension an inquisitive people 😊!
Politically, we just cannot stop poking our [long] noses into others’ affairs … and more than that, commenting on the same. We are ‘holier than thou’!
Locally, we must be part of the crowd – we just cannot mind our own business.
Socially, not only must we ‘keep up with the Joneses’ but we must comment on “them”, their life, clothes, dogs, cats and anything else we are inquisitive enough to bitch about.
We’ll stop to see an accident; we’ll mill around the affected; we’ll give our comments on who was right or wrong without even knowing anything about the incident; we’ll even pronounce judgement – all along with no relationship to affected parties concerned. All because our voice must be heard above the din of another 50 onlookers with exactly the same purpose in mind 😊!
Oi people!!! … Get a life! There’s more to life than inquiring into our neighbors’ comings and goings; the food they eat; their lifestyle; or who they meet.
We should get our own house in order … after all, there’s another countless tongues wagging at [against] us!
July 3, 2019
Of course we … cannot!
Like any other vehicle, if driven responsibly and safely, motorcycles are lots of fun and easier to get around a big city than a car. Majority of the World’s developing nations rely on this transport.
Continuing with my earlier thoughts on this – https://dinshawavari.wordpress.com/2019/02/25/for-the-love-of-motorcycles/ – they are [one of] the bane of my existence!
Motorcyclists in Karachi are the most reckless drivers, followed closely by truckers & buses; they don’t follow the rules or the law; they don’t believe in personal safety, let alone another commuter’s safety; and they believe they are the kings of the roads! Road tests to get them to drive in a specified lane could not even be implemented successfully.
Karachi does not have any other reasonable alternative or adequate means of commute – our “metro” is non existent and the bus service wouldn’t be able to support the public’s requirements if motorcycles were actually banned.
So what’s the alternative?
Physically partition two of the left most lanes of all major roads & arteries so that cycles, motorcycles, rickshaws … and BUSES can only drive there; and leave the other two (or more) lanes for four wheelers of all kinds. Don’t allow the former to come into the majority lanes – on penalty of confiscation of the vehicle for six months … no fine, just outright confiscation! Make it a LAW.
For you motorcyclists out there, what other practical and reasonable solutions or suggestions do you have?